StepMom..movie

Free time....

Everyone wants free time ,and makes us feel refreshed, but not everyone got it.

I had some free time ..this week ..so What would I do?

going out ? actually the best time to go to sleep..all day long..

But This time, I decided to watch dvd, watch movies to relax and I do alone at home, without "interruption" anyone....

Honestly, I know many people of all ages, who would feel much more at home using a Bluerays players to watch films...more relax and more privat than go to the movies...

So I wanna share ...

"The STEP MOM " starring JuliaRobert and Susan Sarandon the real star of the movie..and Directed by Chris Columbus, the man behind the Harry Potter movies.

I was really enjoying the family drama..Sad Story (as usual ..my Tears Fall Down..there's nothing wrong in crying...right ..honestly ,i cant control emotion in sad story but i can control laughter while watching comedy movies..)

Here's the story :

Anna and Ben’s parents divorce and their father (Ed Harris) begins dating another woman; Isabel Kelly (Julia Roberts) she is nothing like their mother Jackie (Susan Sarandon) and is career focused and independent. Both the children and their mother struggle to come to terms with this new woman in their lives but when Jackie is diagnosed with a severe form of cancer the family must learn to work together to ensure the best possible outcome from this horrendous situation.

Some of the scenes in this film are truly heartbreaking....its the best movies specially for woman,

When I watched this movie stole my heart and made me cry...sad but in the real life..

thats true..!! happening around us.

Look ...How nice a both woman so well managed to keep their relationship with the same guy ...

And how nice the relationtionship a first wife and a second wife ..

Hmmm. How lucky that man !!

Being stepmother can be one of the most challenging roles in life,

she has Support ,understanding and appreciation from others.

She has interact with step children, spend quality time with them .caring , loving and friendly relationship with them.

In fact actually most of stepmom try our hardest to be kind, considerate, and loving to our stepchildren.

Made me cry in the end,Its really will touch if we are really love our mom.

As usual I searched and a" dig" about how all sorts of life stepmom..and I found this www.thepsychoeexwife.com/15-things-stepmoms-not-so-secretly-want-to-say-to-moms

I salute and agree with everything as she has to say

Yes ..another lesson with different condition , which could have happened to us..

I really got inspired from this website..

I take a lesson from this, and I underline with bold

Most of all is that children is everything.They deserve the attention of parents, regardless of conditions that occur inside.

Everything about stepmother ..dealing with life as a stepmom., and tip and trick how to be a stepmon.. .make us realize that stepmom are people too..and truly deserved better ..

**Special my sister in Law ..Sash...You 're in a tough position. .is a very difficult job,..I know

They have a lucky to have you...They will tell you... someday ..and realized of how family is important to us..Through family we find ourselves as we give and receive support.

Try new things...

Look at this picture. as though we are in the magazine..

This is what the originality of black-and-white-photography ..

Having said.. Look younger... natural and more glamorous seems like the older photo..

everyone wants to look young in photograph and there is no question about it...

even so, more or less we have to know how to take pictures in order to produce a good photo..

That’s why , Lets us Learn : “Taking Digital Pictures Like A Pro!”

I’ve had a digital camera for a few years , and have often become frustrated when I was not taking the kinds of pictures I wanted.

and recently I searched the internet, browsing of tips and tricks for the "amateur photographer that will take me to a nextlevel' and increase and much learn about how to take a good photo .

Here's the tips and trick :

we have to consider the following :

• Positioning our subjects,Be sure there are no unwanted objects or people in the background of our picture.Focus on our subject
• Finding the right light,Adjust the lighting as necessary. Flash does not necessarily make for a good picture
• Avoiding blurry images
• Using the flash correctly,Know when to use flash
• Capturing moving images,Be aware of the distance between our and subject. If there is too much distance, we may not be able to make out fine details in the photo. If we are too close, we may be cutting out important aspects of the frame.
• Keeping red eye out of pictures, and The best portraits look natural. Try to catch our subject is a casual moment
• Preserving the right moment
• and Take lots of different shots – Taking extra pictures ,take advantage of it. Even if we like the photo when it’s viewed back on our camera’s , take another, always look different when viewed at full size. and we can choose which one best of the photo .

So there we have we have it...its easy right?

With these quick and easy tips, We'll become a better "amateur' Photographer

within a matter of hours.

Everything will be easy if studied. a million thanks to Techology..

thanks for my Uncle Google..All we need is there..

Lets Prepare..

This Picture, I received a fewday and become an interesting 'topic between me and my friends in my bbm group.

I'm not 40 plus, I'm eighteen with 22 years experience

Yes ..day by day , we're getting older. we say goodbye to our past times and we move slowly to the future. all of us to live, joy and sorrow, ups and down , happy and sad ,we did mistakes. we fall . we rise again. we smile again. we take another path of life. we cry. we laugh. we fall . we run. we jump. and without we can ever notice. we are getting older.

Getting older isnt nice,is it?

I'm not getting older...

I'm getting better. They say that life begins at 40...well, for me, it's 43...

Sometime..

I am happy if someone said that I am still young

Hehehe... my heart always flies if my new friend were surprised and say.." What?? Are you 43?? Do you already have son in university???..are yu kidding???..you look so young???...

( woow. ..feel flying in the sky....)

Then ..when I walked with Nabila my daughter ..then meet other people. ..is she your sister?

oh come on...They are my children ..eventhough I was a bit insulted..my nose bigger and bloom ..Deep in my heart ,feeling a bit proud.

But Getting older doesnt mean everything will change , not become an ugly thing, and it goes not on getting worse.... must be getting better than before.

But if I looked at the mirror..my heart would trembling..I touched my skin..my face..

oh.. I' m not young any more. I can see more lines around my eyes.

that a signs of aging?..I should be aware on this..*I worry even more.

Terrible ,isnt it?..Thats a women,Actually not ALL of women .

I realized that the age of forty plus is crawling to me, in upcoming years .I was scared ,

the fact saying that being young always makes me happy, but being old is a nightmare..

I wish i could live forever young..

I remember when I was younger, I can't wait to get older,now that I'm getting old,I wish that I stayed 25..

Sometimes..I was thinking..what I have been doing in my life??

I should be aware that my age is 40 years plus ..

Hmmm...the next 10 years..perhaps I will have a grandchild..ya Allah how fast time flies..

Then my heart pounded ..the fear of being old.

Sometimes , I think like this :

How if I should live alone and getting older without someone beside me ??

I believe that Allah has already set for everything.

Having a children is a gift for me .

I should thankful with what I have.

So why should I worry about getting older then?

Actually

I should not worry about being old

I should worry if I'm getting old but I cant be a good and  a lovely mom for my children.

So now....getting older means that I should be better person inside eventhough I loose my beauty outside.

InsyaAllah

I always pray ,grand me better health so Ican live longer and be with my children,

my family, my friend. Iwish good health for people that I love,

Life is learning process and every event in my live is an opportunity to learn a lesson.

I'm sure insyaAllah. With my age now, Allah give me happy life , good health.

Being happy is more than wrinkles on the face,..right?

( I told myself..hey ..u can stop worrying now..stop being afraid of a lot of things cause you realize that being afraid is basically useless)

Finally.. what have I done with my life so far?

Allah swt had gives me , given us...The age..the time..the health..the money..etc etc

I have just to prepare for 'the final' in next world..just prepare for that !!!

so..lets prepare for the time where we will be moved to the next world..

Remember..our life is for akhirat !!And anything here is just means to get something better. and There are only to prepare our mindset and our heartset for akhirat,

yes ..yes ...Look at it. Is that what’s happening to me today? Today is better than yesterday? And I am hoping for tomorrow that it’s going to be better?

Not worldly again. Not Dunya. ...Akhirat, ...akhirat.

concentrating on everything in Akhirat, not in Dunya. ,....

Everything comes along then to me . preparing my self for Akhirat

*I came from ALLAH swt and we will return to Allah (inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un).....* hu hu hu I'm scared

Let's prepare....Ida

Ullen sentanu

It is a Javanese art and cultural museum of arts and crafts.

Located around 28 KM North of the Keraton, on Kaliurang Street.Being located on the slope of Mount Merapi,

We can see lots a pictures of the Javanese royals, paintings and crafts with historical themes (some are considered as mystical), old musical instruments like gamelan, and a collection of sacred handmade batik.

The building of the complex are architecturally designed and built from local stone, sheltered by trees and featuring walkways overwater, large courtyard spaces and gardens...quiet place filled with historical value.

But , Too bad we don’t allow to take pictures at all in the museum.

For In formation The entrance fee when I visited this museum was Rp 25,000 (USD2.80)/person,

Ullen sentalu area..surrounded by trees and grass was like in a place away from the community.

One room.. looks dark .. (but I am not alone here ) fresh and peaceful was what I feel.

Tour in Ullen Sentalu Museum takes about one hour with a local guide.very interesting to know about the history and genealogy palace

So, If We come to Yogyakarta , and we are culture lovers, then the Ulen Sentalu museum is great choice to visit.

I can’t tell much about its contents, but I guarantee this museum is highly recommended to visit. And for more information about Ullen Sentalu Museum please visit here.

I hope my trip will be more loving culture of my own country

Friends are special people

I have been so lucky to have such a wonderful group of friends in my life...now . Each of them offer something that I need and I am so thankful for each one of them. I couldn't make it through each day without them in my life! .. The picture above is .. my group of Labs Moms Vertrou .

So.. Inspired me to Shared.,what exactly Friend is.

 I found this poem and wanted it to share it with my friends .they know how much they are appreciated! 

What is a Friend? By C Raymond Beran ( from uncle 'google..)  

What is a friend? 

I will tell you. It is a person with whom you dare to be yourself. 

Your soul can be naked with her. She seems to ask of you to put on nothing, only to be what you are. 

She does not want you to be better or worse. When you are with her, you feel as a prisoner feels who has been declared innocent. You do not have to be on your guard. You can say what you think, so long as it is genuinely you. She understands those contradictions in your nature that lead others to misjudge you. 

With her you breathe freely. 

You can avow your little vanities and envies and hates and vicious sparks, your meannesses and absurdities and, in opening them up to her, they are lost, dissolved on the white ocean of her loyalty. 

She understands. You do not have to be careful. You can abuse her, neglect her, tolerate her. Best of all, you can keep still with her.

It makes no matter. She likes you - she is like fire that purges to the bone. 

She understands. She understands. You can weep with her, sing with her, laugh with her, pray with her. Through it all - and underneath -

she sees, knows, and loves you. A friend? What is a friend? Just one, 

I repeat, with whom you dare to be yourself.

my 8th MOMS ...

Everyone needs friends.. most of us have friends, but do they all really understand us ..? usually only some of them do....I'm sure that .. Eight moms my group consist of parents from our children alumny of Kemang Pratama Alazhar elementry school. I think there're more advantages than disadvantages , we can be more open to other members , fell safe , and comfortable to share anything each other ..changed the experiences as a moms.. Being a member of "eightmoms is like ' Arisan' .... for example .one member doing business then sell something to our member etc. if one of us fells happy , fell happy similarly , if one is sad , then all are sad ..and if one need help , all the others are willing to help. I remember one wise word ..

One enemy is too many, one hundred friends are too few

I' m grateful to Allah swt. for sending me those people, and giving me this beautiful chapter of my life.

  * thanks to mb etty.. ... for technology by photoshop..

unexpected meet....!

I remember the day we met ...@ Senayan city UrbanKitchen, almost incidentally..through facebook.

Thanks to Facebook I’ve been able to reconnect with old friends/classmates. So we got together for a little ..just 2 hours with my old friend Devi and Nina , They lives relatively close and we don’t see them as often as we should...nina and Devi, keep in touch yaa...I missed our togetherness years ago.
And There was a surprise get together.

vinoty Amplas Jogjakarta

Vinoti living - Ambarukmo Plaza Jogjakarta.

The moment I was in there, For two days I visited the place an, my niece' yuli became leader as a manager area there.

Amazing stuff.. collection from Accecories of Vinoty living ...

With the concept of 'one stop shopping', this shop offers furniture and accessories for the beauty of house.

Such simple and up to date design will definitely bring an exclusive touch to our house.

I couldn't take my eyes off,,.. The living room collection

some of The Dining Room collection

The style behind this store..the furniture,...it looks great I love this store ..... So..mrs Yuli ,sorry for the moment we dont buy anything ... Perhaps someday , when we need..^.^ * Pics collection taken from I'm Vinoty living by Halisya.

my little thought ... this weekend..

Special my letter for my sis..my best friend  who was confused and desperate

believe GOD ( Allah swt) is always with us 

To my lovely sister

Dear sis...

‎​ OK I guess to start with ..Bismillahi rahmanirrahim... ( in the name of Allah ... May Allah protect and save us )..

Sure... I know exactly what your feeling .. and I know you ,really really love your husband,

Sister... you're not the only women who is facing such a problem.

All of mom or wife have felt jealous and suspicious for one reason .. you have to be more patient... but must take being heart and please be calm . Please ,analize the situation first ..dont react emotionally. Make sure , clearly ... talk to your husband regarding your feelings or misunderstandings about him. don't react in a destructive way.dont argue and don't attact 'someone with your suspicious . If you are getting into jealousy, tell him first ..discuss the matter , I am sure he will understand and make you feel better.and it will definitely help you to stop being jealous. is your husband is having an affair and spending all his time with other woman,? if .. so You've to right to be jealous and suspicious ! and you have to make action and reaction for this ! complain about it .

Sister .... .some jealousy is a natural reaction to a bad relationship...Believe me that Suspicious thoughts can become chronic and difficult to reason with. And Not healthy for the relationship at all.. with your husband especially .

I'm sure .. that All husbands should learn this lesson... let him know ,that its not Good for marriage man make a relationship or go out with another woman , its illegal relations.. Do you realise how lucky you are. Sis...to be marry with him? Be thankful for what you have. .. If you believe in him, believe in his completely; give him all your trust... when your husband telling the truth .. he swears , he has'nt been with anyone special relationship...he didn't lie to you ... ...( he take islam as fundament in his life .. right ? ) Sister ...........May Allah give you strength... and i know you will..

"Namaste "

N. A.M.A.S.T.E

My yoga teacher says it after our practise .. and the perform " Namaste". We place the hands together at the heart., close the eyes and bow the head. and then bringing the hands down to the heart. Namaste should be done both at the beginning and at the end of calss. and also often times will use ' namaste ( namah te ) as greeting to say hello and goodbye. ..many translation in english to namaste, and he are some of them

• I salute the divine in you
• I bow to the divine in you
• when we are in that place, we are one.
• I greet the place where you and I are one

Talking about ..Namaste’ or ‘namaskar’ is the Indian way of greeting each other. Wherever they are – on the street, in the house, in public transport, on vacation or on the phone  ..(usually when Hindus meet people, the most popular form of greeting in India)
*source from www.thesecretsofyoga.com

wear hijab

-I'm happy with my cousin Kiki, Nita, Nova .. call me ; " Tante ida..alhamdulillah , finally ..I wearing jilbab now .."( i really glad to hear that )...

Talking about wear 'jilbab ' or hijab' Alhamdulillah ,I started wearing hijab for the first time at 2002, its the best decision ,it's the biggest change in my life, I've ever made. I did'nt care of what people think of it. I started to go to mosque for Tak'lim ( pengajian" ),and sit with so many moms, talking and discuss islamic matter,all moms were wearing hijab,so i respected them so much. And started to harder on my player, my du'a , then i decided wearing hijab ,Alhamdulillah But some friend. And relatives did not believe that i could do it. Then,

I talk to My sister 'k ruk' ( Alm) . I had to listen to her comments ,she says ; . :"

"" you are doing the right things... ida, so just listen to your heart you will be fine and happy,with the 'jilbab' is the final things which would complete you as a muslimah, inshallah, believe me"

"".

. It means a lot for me. K 'ruk helping me a lot. Now I'm more confident about wear hijab.its my right, my choice, my life.” , i feel and i realised, that most importantly by wearing 'jilbab, with the reason that I'm showing the world that I'm modest woman who fear Allah swt. I follow Allah..i believe that Allah demand 'hijab' to help me to make my life easier. . Allah knows what is in my heart (quitely i talk to my daughter..pls wearing jilbab nabila :: , look at around us. Those women problems walk around naked or almost naked!!!..,the 'hijab' really protect women from stranger, harrastment or violence,we can go. Anywhere without worried and fear..) Once again ; i'm doing the right things. I feel proud of wearing jilbab.

Yoga out door

June , 5 2011

Sunday morning, I did Yoga outdoorwith an experienced teacher of yoga community from Yoga leaf of Bandung .. very different, with an unspoiled air pollution .. .. no" hustle and bustle"..with fresh and natural atmosphere.

in a relaxing outdoor setting overlooking Dago Pakar Park Bandung..

Its The best yoga experience I ever had!

I realize that joining a group of new people for an experience to an unfamiliar place can be challenging..with the people who are experts, with new pose..I can learn a lot from here.

Look at picture above .. .. Pujiastuti as a yoga teacher .. she's so energic, young, with a flexible style, Powerful, breathtaking, and beautiful!".. she would become my inspiration to continue practicing yoga..

The practice of yoga has helped me become a happier and healthier person..

increase my awareness and live healthy..keep me more flexible..really

It truly has improved my body, mind and most of all, my spirit..

Yoga has become such an important part of my life I'm so Gratefull for that.

We had a wonderful time together

After 4 nights away from kids, chores, market, study, office,yoga, etc..

Its back to the daily routine..back to my' habitat'

4 nights is waaaaay toooooo short

But better than nothing .

I had a great time and

We had a wonderful time together eating, walking, laughing ,watching, joking,

sleeping , sightseeing and shopping our way around Singapore,..so all in the name of "F U N !

and I am so grateful to have had this special time with them.

We Try spending precious time on meaningful and fulfilling things, ..

To be honest ,I'm missing everyone at home.. ..I'm missing the warmth

The first YOGA ...@ Sing

I had an experience which I want to share..., During short vacation in Singapore, I attended a yoga class @ Pacific Plaza at Scotts Road, the first one for me.... Taking a yoga class for the first time can be exciting and a little 'scared .. with prof all member and .. prof teacher ... Hatha Yoga with instructor Adinath . , I never thought I could do some of the positions required but .... Surprisingly, I can follow ....pose to pose....( he told me that believe .. soon will increase your flexibility .. ~~~ I remember ,, Adi told me : during exercise..with any pose . "mom.. How many times should you perform this exercise and how long should you hold the pose...?. you have to make attention to do that..............like .. The Dog pose and Cat pose... What is the difference between the Dog Pose and cat pose. please explain. ( I ask ...) he answers deeply :::: the cat pose you do on your knees, as shown above. and Doing dog pose, you touch the floor with your feet, while your legs are straight. ... and ... Clear ... I make a lot conversation with him .. .....so make me increase my knowledge and skills about yoga ...

Pic above : The teacher, Yoga master from India name : ADINATH ...Adi also teaches Gentle Yoga, Yoga Therapy, and Traditional Yoga at True Yoga..

it's really a good experience for me ..

then last ... he say... Nama stay ( he.. he .. I guess the spelling errors).... means NAMASTE

learning from children ...eating right .....

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Here's .. the good article from http://www.oplife.org/2010/12/things-we-can-learn-from-children.html/

If you find it difficult to motivate yourself to eat right, to do physical exercises, etc.,

just see how children spend their day.

1. Children are moving all the day

Children are in motion all day long: since the moment when they get up, until the time when they go to bed. They are the machine for burning calories, which runs, jumps and skips. Watch your children (or other children) – it’s more movement, more energy, more exercises.

2. Children stop eating when they are full.

Children don’t have a rule “to eat all the food from the plate”. They stop eating when they receive signals from the stomach that it is full, and they pay no attention to the amount of food on the plate.

3. Children like to see themselves naked.

Children are proud of their bodies. If you are constantly criticizing your body, choose the moment to say ‘thank you’ for what you’ve got. Without it, it would be difficult.

4. Children are very flexible.

After all, children practice every day. As adults, we lose flexibility, because doing a little stretching exercises. Therefore, try to do yoga or at least simple exercises for stretching. It will help you a lot to remain healthy.

5. Children go to bed early.

In the morning they are active and full of energy. When was the last time you could say the same things about yourself? Turn off your TV, computer, phone and sleep well.

6. Children are sincere.

They sincerely and immediately show their emotions without hiding them. Children look in your eyes saying everything they want, they don’t hesitate and don’t turn away when they say that they love.

7. Children can enjoy small things.

It doesn’t depend whether it’s playing with a ball outdoors or simply watching the rainy at the window, they are still full of happiness

its.. inspirational.....We do actually learn things from children .....Getting motivated to get healthy is all fun...if done with a strong will.